When I first started this journey I imaged giving the greatest gift to another, the gift of life! I imagined how easy it would be, because I get pregnant easy, and my pregnancies and births are mostly very easy going. I thought about all the wonderful things I have been lucky and privileged to experience with my own children. All the smiles and laughter and even some tears. I dreampt about giving that to another and how amazing it would be. As I looked more in to it and began my own journey, I got to see that sometimes, things don't always go as planned. Sometimes there is not the joy that I thought would be there for everyone. Sometimes there are even losses of these babies. Sometimes there are disagreements and conflicts over these beautiful small angels.
After reading more about the heartaches that others went through I started to stand a little more guarded. I have heard several stories of surrogates who never see the baby after they are born and the IPs do not keep in contact, even though in the beginning it was discussed that they would keep in contact. I have heard of surrogates and the Intended mother becoming really close during pregnancy and then once baby is here, contact is non-existent. This could be due to the IM wanting to spend every waking moment with this most precious and beautiful gift she thought she would never have. I can see how I would be so addicted to my child that nothing else would matter. These are some of the things I read that made me feel not to get to attached.
I have kept in touch with my IM at least once a week and mostly through email. She has always seemed very polite and lovely to work with. I never thought that we would have any problems communicating or coming to any agreements when it came to the pregnancy. So like I said I have been very guarded with becoming to close but always send my love with a bit of hope that things would be how I originally hope they would be.
Well after seeing them this week and spending hours with them at the hospital, ultrasounds, doctors appointments and visits, I know that it is everything I expected it to be and more. They have complete trust in me and what I am doing for their girls. They told me that if for some reason they are unable to make it to the birth because I go in to labor early they full trust my decisions until they get there. What an honor to hear that. I want nothing for the best for these girls so they can come healthy and their mom can just enjoy every moment, every second smelling them and kissing their sweet skin. Trying to take it all in and not rush one second.
We had our ultrasound this week and it was the first time they got to see the girls in action. There were lots of "ohhhs" and "Ahhhs!" while watching them and seeing the girls move around. The IM was fascinated. Afterwards we meet with the doctor and he explained everything to them and what I will be doing from this point forward until the girls are here. I will have 2 doctors appointments every week for them to check fluids, heart rates and make sure babies are growing at the same pace. It is very common at this point to start to see the weights change in the babies and for one to gain more than the other. Small amounts are ok, but anything significant is dangerous. The IPs were very pleased with my doctor and his office staff. They feel extremely confident in my choice for our care. After that was over the girls were getting active to I asked the IM if she wanted to feel the girls move. Of course she did.
She was so excited to feel the feet or legs or what ever part it was moving around in there. She was beaming with joy and so excited and appreciative. Seeing her so happy filled my heart and soul with so much love and excitement! I am even more thrilled to be doing this for them and can't wait until delivery day. The look on her face when meeting her daughters is going to be absolutely fantastic!!
I am 28 weeks and 2 days. today. The girls are measuring well. One is right on target and the other a little bigger by a couple of weeks. Their current estimated weights are 2lbs 10oz & 2lbs 15oz. Already almost 6lbs of baby and I still have at least another 7 wks before these girls are allowed to come! Most women get uncomfortable and want babies out, and I may end up feeling that way soon...it is getting tight, but I really want to make it to 35 weeks at the earliest! That will be the first week of March and the parents will be here!
This is me today at 28 weeks, but measuring 38!! This will be interesting to watch this belly grow!! I am really looking forward to seeing these girls, but most of all to see their mom with them is even more excited and worth every bit to get to that.
Is that a basket ball or a couple of babies under there?!?!
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